A couple of friends were waiting for me at a restaurant.
I was running late because when I am working or studying it seems to take longer than expected.
I rushed through the door, a little winded expressing my apologies.
They smiled and said. "It's OK! Don't worry about it."
I appreciated their graciousness, but I shook my head.
Sometimes, it can be incredibly powerful to admit to yourself & others,
"Actually... it's not OK."
Like many led people, I have a tendency to go "above and beyond" when it comes to work - rising early in the morning going deeper and deeper barely surfacing to breathe.
There's nothing wrong with this tendency of devotion. It's one of the things I like best about myself.
But what's wrong is when it is out of balance.
Even if it is OK with them, it's not OK with me.
But I'd never make a firm commitment to do better, without first beginning with the uncomfortable words:
It's not OK.
It's not OK that I'm (almost) always a few minutes tardy when I'm meeting.
It's not OK to be a few minutes late for church.
It's not OK to be a couple of minutes late picking up the kids.
It's a small thing and yet it's a big thing.
Punctuality and honesty = growth.
And that's definitely OK.
Let me ask a rhetorical question.
"What's not OK with you?"